Welcome to the latest addition to the blog, Music Mondays! Here, will be a collection of songs that inspire self-reflection in us, hopefully leading to self-love, self-compassion, and all around self-badassery. If you have a song that inspires these feelings with you, share it in the comments so we can all have a dance/listening party for our self-celebration.
The honor to our very first song is:
Ready for Love (India Arie)
The first time I heard this song, I was going through a breakup so I went to dig old India Arie albums to find a song to heal me (because India’s voice has that superpower). I heard this song and it immediately spoke to me but for the wrong reasons. It spoke to my desperation, to how badly I wanted someone to love me, to validate me, and how I was willing to do nearly anything to be loved and “if you give me half a chance I’ll prove this to you.”
Then one day, I saw India on TV and she said this was actually a love song to herself and it completely blew my mind. It was the first time I ever thought about having a love song from me, to me. What? No way India! You mean I can love myself and not have to wait for someone else’s permission? I can find value in myself without anyone else having to validate that love? Why didn’t I think of this sooner? Today this isn’t such a ground breaking concept to me but back then, India Arie gave me an opportunity for introspection. My body was screaming for acceptance and I was giving nothing in return but loathing, a constant battle to tame it, and endlessly wishing I could trade it for somebody else’s perfectly sculpted body.
Ready for love became like a gentle pleading, a gentle tug of you telling yourself I am ready for you to love me. Don’t you see all the good things about me? What else do I need to do to be worthy of you?
Favorite part: “ I am ready for love, would you please lend me your ear? I promise I won’t complain, I just need you to acknowledge I am here. Tell me what is enough, to prove I am ready for love”
Do you hear your body pleading for your love and attention? What is it going to take for you to listen? What is it going to take for you to give in and saturate yourself with the love your body has been begging you for?
Isabelle Masado writes about body compassion on her blog "The Dear Body Project". She knows all too well that the personal is the political, is the community. As such, there is no discussing body compassion without talking about the assault on black bodies, trans women, and people with disabilities. Her mantra is, "How can I live in a way that makes room for you too"? She writes to examine, to heal, to redeem.