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6 Foreign Words That Will Teach You About Self-Compassion

1. SAWUBONA

Where it’s from: South Africa (Zulu tribe)

What it is: Sawubona is a greeting that means “I see you” and the response is “Ngikhona”, which means I am here. The significance of this greeting is two-fold: reverence, and compassion. First, by saying “I see you” we are really saying I see and recognize the divine in you; then in responding “I am here”, we are saying “thank you for bringing me into existence, for acknowledging me, for reminding me that I am of the divine”. Secondly, Sawubona is also an act of compassion because when you say “I see you”, you also see someone’s trials and difficulties and you are willing to ask if and how they need help.  Sawubona is a beautiful ritual of reverence for  humanity, recognizing our interconnectedness a willingness to be responsible for each other.

How it teaches compassion: Sawubona reminds you that in your body, you encapsulate the magic of the entire universe which means you have in you a potential much bigger than what you can fathom. Remember this when you decide to try something physically challenging and it feels impossible. You have the entire universe within you, so can do this. Do remember though, that you must treat your body with care, patience and respect. When you feel frustrated that your body is not doing what you want, check in with yourself. Dear body, I see you. I see that you are tired, I see that I am asking too much of you, let me slow down and we can try again later. Sawubona-Ngikhona is a delicate balance of pushing beyond your self-imposed limits, but stopping right before injury. Reverence and compassion. I see you. Sawubona.

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2. NAMASTE

Where it’s from: India

What it is: It is a word in Sanskrit which means “I bow to the divine in you.”

from the lifeintended
from the lifeintended

How it teaches compassion. Namaste is a concept similar to Sawubona, with the added gesture of joining your hands together at your heart, symbolizing that the divine in me (which lies in my heart chakra) bows to the divine in you. I do this nearly all the time, in moments of gratitude or happiness, but especially in moments of frustration. It’s most important for me when I am exercising, whether it is yoga or pole dance because that’s when I am cursing my body for not mastering what I see everybody else doing with near perfection. Joining my hands together and saying “Sawubona/Namaste”, I am reminding myself that my body is divine and deserves my deepest respect and tenderness. So I stop, slow down and join my hands as a sign of respect and patience for my own body, then I get back into the exercise. Namaste also teaches me to be kinder and more respectful of others bodies, because it is nearly impossible to treat others with disdain when you remember that they crafted from pieces of the divine. Namaste.

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3. QUERENCIA

Where it’s from: Spain

What it is: “I stumbled on this word while reading “Radical Acceptance” by Dr. Tara Brach. She writes ” in bullfighting, it is believed that in the midst of a fight, a bull can find his own particular area of safety in the arena, There, he can reclaim strength and power. This inner state is called querencia. As long as the bull remains enraged and reactive, this matador is in charge. Yet when the bull finds querencia, he gathers his strength and loses his fear”

querencia

How it teaches compassion:  There isn’t a scarcity of moments when you feel any efforts to lose weight just seem in vain, moments when nothing makes you feel good, moments when people’s comments about your body make you feel worthless. Querencia is a reminder to pause. Pause and check in with yourself. How am I feeling? I don’t want to always be reactive, so how do I regain control and deal with this situation on my terms? That pause is the kindest, most important thing you can do for yourself when everything seems to be spinning out of control. That suspension of time, that sacred pause is where you draw your strength and recharge before you take on the world. Pause, breathe, ask, heal, recharge, and charge on. Querencia.

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4. WABI-SABI

Where it’s from: Japan

What it is:

via Matt Koehler
via Matt Koehler

How it teaches compassion:  Wabi-Sabi is the art of seeing value in imperfection. The detriment of our obsession with beauty is that we feel like our bodies are useless if they aren’t aesthetically pleasing. You don’t need to feel pretty in order to feel like you have value. You know what? Scars are ugly. They just are. But there is more to a scar than just the fact that it is not presentable. Because your scars are evidence of your body’s amazing resilience. The lines your wrist from cutting, the cut on my leg from that one time I tried a handstand for the first time, the scar from your heart transplant, the scar across your chest when you became who you always knew you were, the scars from you mastectomy. Scars are not pretty but they’re totally badass. Wabi-sabi is the art of seeing value in the things that seem imperfect. It is the art of seeing the necessity of each stretch mark, each sagging skin, each scar, they all deserve your attention and love. You, in all of your imperfections, are absolutely valuable and necessary. Wabi-Sabi

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5. KINSTUKUROI

Where it’s from: Japan

What it is: The ancient art of repairing pottery with gold, and therefore understanding that the piece is more beautiful for having been broken

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Found on alexandrababan.deviantart.com

How it teaches compassion: Consider this is to be the application of Wabi-sabi. Wabi-Sabi reminds you to appreciate your flaws, Kintsukuroi shows you how. While you can’t exactly stitch yourself up with gold, you can practice this ritual through acts of kindness with yourself. Take time to mend your broken heart by reminding yourself of your good attributes. Take time to care for your tired body by lingering a little longer in the shower. Massage your feet that take you everywhere in your pursuit of happiness. Do some stretching exercises after a difficult workout.  Eat nutritious food as you recover from an illness. Take deeper breaths and fill your entire being with love and hope. Use each act of kindness as if it were a piece of gold you were placing on each fissure when the world tried to tear you apart. Kintsukuroi.

6. HO’OPONOPONO

Where it’s from: Hawai

What it is: It is a Hawaiian prayer where you take responsibility for yourself and for your part in what aches the world. With this prayer, you seek to heal the world by asking for forgiveness by saying,

found on guitarmonks
found on guitarmonks

How it teaches compassion: This Hawaiian prayer is important especially for people who are driven to save the world of its plagues, because it reminds you that to heal the world, you must turn inward by healing yourself while also taking responsibility for the bad that you  put out into the world. Talking a lot about self-love might leave you feeling exhausted because it takes a lot of energy to constantly be vigilant about the ways you might be self abuse. Ho’oponopono makes it simple because sometimes you only have enough energy to say to yourself, to your body, “I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you”. Additionally, you must take responsibility for the energy you put out into the world. For the condescending remarks you make towards other people’s bodies. For the mistreatment to which you subject others, because their aesthetics make you uneasy. Take responsibility for the energy you bring into someone else space. When you know better, you do better. Ho’oponopono.

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Dany Isabelle Masado View All

Isabelle Masado writes about body compassion on her blog "The Dear Body Project". She knows all too well that the personal is the political, is the community. As such, there is no discussing body compassion without talking about the assault on black bodies, trans women, and people with disabilities. Her mantra is, "How can I live in a way that makes room for you too"? She writes to examine, to heal, to redeem.

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