Welcome to Day 2 of the 31 days of Self Compassion.
Day 2: Surrendering to all the negative feelings we run from
There is one emotion that follows you in your journey to self-Love no matter where you are in it. That emotion is shame. In the beginning, you feel shame about your body, shame that you don’t look cookie cutter beautiful, shame that your love handles are a little too much to love, shame that every loving touch on your skin feels like an accusation.
Then when you get up one day and decide to start loving yourself or start the weight loss journey you think will bring you love, you will fail. Epically. Overwhelmingly. Way too many times. A waist trainer, rotten broccoli in the fridge, hunger pangs from starvation, and one too many frustrating workouts later, you will still feel shame.
Even when you succeed in your weight loss and realize you feel just as empty as you did a few pounds ago, shame will grab you by the throat and drag you down to its level.
Why am I telling you this? Because you need to know the important of being open and honest with all your feelings, and making space for them. Shame arises only from the idea that you’re not allowed to feel what you feel. It makes you bury the most vulnerable parts of yourself and prevents you from doing the emotional cleansing that is critical to healing.
Surrender to your shame, let it flow through you so you can get real with yourself. Let it flow through you because the quicker it passes, the faster you can get back to you, to healing you, to fighting for you, to loving you.
Isabelle Masado writes about body compassion on her blog "The Dear Body Project". She knows all too well that the personal is the political, is the community. As such, there is no discussing body compassion without talking about the assault on black bodies, trans women, and people with disabilities. Her mantra is, "How can I live in a way that makes room for you too"? She writes to examine, to heal, to redeem.