I think we can all agree that 2016 has been a challenging year, natural disasters wreaking Havoc on countries, to Native Americans fighting for access to clean water, to Syrians barely surviving bombings, to a presidential election that was straight out of an episode of the Twilight zone.
We’re ready for 2016 to take its pain and exit stage left, with hopes that 2017 will dance in with much needed healing. As we wind down to the end of the year, here are a few things we ought to bury in 2016 along with everything else it took from us.
- Constantly making self-deprecating comments about your body
- Apologizing for the way you look, because you’ve internalized the idea that a body like yours should be seen as little as possible
- Constantly feeling guilty over your eating habits
- Sharing damaging diet trends with your friends
- Using the bathroom scale as a measure of how much tenderness your body deserve
- Believing that intense self-criticism is the only way you can relate to your body
- Putting your best life on the shelf until after you lose weight
- Being afraid of leaving relationships that drain you, because you don’t think you’re worth much more
- Second guessing your intuition when it tells you that something/someone is just not right
- Not listening to someone when they tell you how they want to be treated
- Thinking about the value of self-love only in terms of how it will help you attract your soulmate
- Thinking someone can love your insecurities away
- Not knowing how to let yourself be loved
- Feeling ashamed for needing comfort, for not always having it all together, for needing someone who holds space for you struggle
- Not believing that you deserve all the things you yearn for
- Being afraid to say yes
- Being afraid to say no
- Being afraid to step into, and OWN your awesome
These are just a few of the many things that 2016 should take with it into the black hole of oblivion, but I’m sure there’s much more we could add. What other emotional baggage should we drop in this year so we can step into 2017, lighter than ever?
Isabelle Masado writes about body compassion on her blog "The Dear Body Project". She knows all too well that the personal is the political, is the community. As such, there is no discussing body compassion without talking about the assault on black bodies, trans women, and people with disabilities. Her mantra is, "How can I live in a way that makes room for you too"? She writes to examine, to heal, to redeem.