Do You Love You?
One of my favorite Gospel songs is titled “Held”, sung by Nathalie Grant. The song is about a Christian couple who lost their newborn child. On top of their sadness, … Continue Reading What I wish Someone Told me About Self-Help Books
This Love letter to her body, was submitted by Kimberly S. Dear Body, Many many years ago WE stood at this very same crossroad, overweight and tired and confused. I … Continue Reading Dear Body, I Hear You.
We made it! Last day of #31daysofselfcompassion. Thank you for hanging in with me and being willing to explore a different way to find your way back to yourself. Let … Continue Reading Let go of Perfection, Let in Patience and Compassion. Day 31 of #31DaysofSelfcompassion.
My happiness has always been just 10 pounds away, just a degree away, just a boyfriend away, just a new pair of shoes away, just a circumstance away. It is … Continue Reading Why You Should Stop Pursuing Goals, and Start Living: Day 30 of #31DaysofSelfCompassion.
“You’re surprisingly eloquent” “You’re beautiful for a dark skinned girl” “You don’t look like an African. That’s good”. “I don’t usually date fat girls, but I’ve always wanted to try … Continue Reading Do Not Go Where You Are Not Wanted: Day 26 of #31DaysofSelfCompassion
Detox teas, waist trainers, training for marathons, going to parties I don’t enjoy, entertaining people out of politeness, adopting a certain style, these are the many things I’ve done and … Continue Reading What Does Self-Love Look Like to You? Day 25 of #31DaysofSelfCompassion
“Eat the cupcake! It’s your birthday, you can do it!” I remember watching a documentary about eating disorders and there is one scene where it was the birthday of one … Continue Reading Change Your Relationship with Food, Change Your Life: Day 18 of #31DaysofSelfCompassion.
My main resistance to beginning a self love journey was the fear that somehow I would be letting myself go, and I would lose my self-discipline. And it a way, … Continue Reading Self-Love Will Not Stop You From Losing Weight, so Go For It: Day 18 of #31DayofSelfCompassion
At a Jewish funeral, the deceased’s closest relatives are supposed to tear off their clothes or wear a ribbon that is ripped apart. This symbolizes the fact that when we … Continue Reading On Crafting a New Identity: Day 16 of #31DaysofSelfCompassion
Note however, that athletic prowess should not be an indicator of how much respect we should give heavier people. A person shouldn’t have to do a handstand or squat 200 pounds in front of you to demonstrate why they deserve basic human courtesy.
“I’m afraid he will leave me if I’m no longer a problem to solve” This is what I found in my journal from a few years ago, about my then … Continue Reading What’s Your Prophecy? Day 14 of #31daysofSelfCompassion
“You are beautiful” “You are worthy” “You are strong” These are the words my friend used to ask me to repeat to myself everyday, while looking in the mirror. I … Continue Reading The Truth About Positive Affirmations: Day 13 of #31DayofSelfCompassion
When I began my journey of self-compassion, the most difficult thing for me was learning how to be kinder with words and actions. Having spent so much time hating my … Continue Reading We Don’t Talk Anymore: Day 11 of #31DaysofSelfCompassion
“Why is Gaby Douglas’ hair still not combed”? “If Gaby got her edges right, she’d perform with excellence”. These are 2 of one too many comments about Olympic Champion Gaby … Continue Reading Forget Beauty, Start Living: Day 10 of #31daysofSelfCompassion
Are you not entertained?
“Your love makes me miserable”. These are words that I will never forget, words said to me by an ex as he broke up with me. Until then I had … Continue Reading For the Love of Love: Day 3 of #31Daysof SelfCompassion
